Blame and Understanding

Human nature feeds on blame. It wasn’t my fault, childhood sucked, family let me down,  I’m mad as hell, no one understands, it wasn’t supposed to be this way, how dare you question me.

Blame is second nature, judgement our hammer. Someone else is always at fault – “you cheated”, “you lied”, ” you were wrong”. Blame is simpler than understanding. Blame doesn’t excuse mothers, fathers, sisters, and brothers who dare to be human. We pigeon hole family to fit roles prescribed by society, cast blame when it blows up in our face. Nothing is ever our fault, someone else is always to blame. Life is short, why waste it on blame?  Life has so much more to offer once blame is laid to rest.

 

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3 thoughts on “Blame and Understanding

  1. You’ve heard to the finger pointing hand: one finger points at someone and three point at yourself. More to the point, I heard this great definition of the word ‘responsibility’: The Ability to Respond. The capacity to get of your butt and do something about it. Blame is another word for lack of responsibility. That is OK too – we don’t have to fix the whole world, just not whinge about it. I think.

  2. It always amazes me that people seem to feel better about themselves when they can talk down about someone else, or blame them for what has gone wrong. I wonder sometimes how it is that we have raised generations of people so insecure that they are afraid to take responsibility for their own actions…. though truth be told the things done/decisions made drunk, or stoned are rarely things anyone wants to take credit for, so blaming someone else is comforting.

    Dunno… is it just blame? Or do we have a need to feel there’s something/someone bigger’n us? Are we really blaming others, or are we searching for the Great Unifier that would make sense out of a sometimes senseless world?

    Cheers,
    Peter
    A retired Photographer looks at life
    Life Unscripted

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