Speaking for myself, keeping in mind I can’t think of a single person this doesn’t apply to; human nature feeds on blame. “It wasn’t my fault” – my childhood sucked, my family let me down, I’m mad as hell. No one understands me, it wasn’t supposed to be this way, or, how dare you question my life. We act like petulant idiots, believing we’re justified – because we blame.
Blame is second nature; judgement our hammer. It’s always someone else at fault – “you cheated”, “you lied”, ” you were wrong”, blame is simpler than understanding. Fueled by impossible expectation, woven into the fabric of human nature by storybook cut outs of how we’re supposed to behave. Blame rears its ugly head when mothers, fathers, sisters, and brothers dare to be human – all before we start our own lives. As young adults we try to be perfect cut-outs, blaming our failures on circumstance. We pigeon hole those around us to fit roles prescribed by society – then cast blame when it blows up in our face. Nothing is really our fault, someone else is always to blame. Never crossing our mind to understand we’re all human.
I suspect that if we were able to cut those around us some slack, we would naturally approach life with understanding. We have such a short amount of time; why waste it on blame? Blame, finger pointing, and exclusion are knee jerk reactions leading to bitterness and regret. Life is short – understanding we’re all humans doing the best we can, might be the ticket to a worthwhile show.
Ponder the cost of allowing blame to eat you alive – maybe then you’ll find some understanding. Mistakes are human, and life has so much more to offer once blame is laid to rest.